Can you help my porn addicted boyfriend?

Hey-- Doctor Butler, aka "Hypnodoc" at liveperson.com. virtual office-- MY BOYFRIEND is an online porn addict-and I feel 'cheated on' and hurt. Do I have live with this? It's making me miserable. Someone told me that his porn addiction is but a mask that hides many other issues- Is that true ? -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Probably very true-- but as when the house is on fire you do not worry about the building code violations, you set about putting the fire out. That is in this case -for him to break this addiction as soon as he can. As with any addiction this may not be easy, and in fact he may resist doing so, even when he recognizes what you say is true and wants to.

Naturally as a first step is one has to get him to see what his addction plays in his life and importantly how it also impacts and confuses his relationship to you. To find and fix these issues, logically means, him ending the viewing the sex stimulating sites and sexy chat rooms, he enjoys. That can be difficult, but returning his erotic attentons to you and not the manufactured fantasy that porn represents is not going to be accomplished by wishful thinking. It takes his cooperation and a commitment to sufficient time to reset his erotoic emotions. If he is really addicted he may also need pro help from sex addiction professionals. The assciated with a adiquate sex drive almost always is associated with masterbation fueled by the porno sex plays (virtual sex plays-that's what these sites really offer) and the voyeur/exhibitionist stuff that go on in the semi-virtual video chat rooms. Also related is today's "sextexting" which is exciting, but less virtual and socially accepted, but while driving, a immediate hazard. This aslo rises to a cheating level by being a chating element not conducted with the mate that you have comitted relationship with. As with any issue invoking addiction or sex, you can expect; denial, lying, and claims of, recreation, tenson release, harmlessness, healthy benefit etc.-- almost any rationalistic comment will be offered to "get you off their case" and excuse the behaviour.

If he really is will to try out of love for you or respect for his own self-image, but still can't hack it, there is professional help and support groups available.